Funeral: Paying Tribute To The Deceased
Losing someone is certainly a very difficult and painful time, especially when it is a close family member or friend. In the face of this tragic loss, you want to do something that will show your respect for the deceased and honor him or her. Aside from the monuments or burial vaults entrusted to professionals capable of delivering the best that would correspond to the priceless value of your loved one, you prepare for the various ceremonies related to death.
No special rites are necessary, and you are free to choose the way you want to greet the memory of the deceased for the last time. So, without further ado, let’s dive into this blog and learn some of our tips to help you find the best way to pay your respects.
The funeral ceremony
It is true that everyone has their way of paying tribute. Some may be good with words, and some prefer gestures. It also depends on the wishes of the deceased. Nevertheless, organizing a funeral ceremony allows one to pay a last tribute to the deceased.
The religious ceremony
The religious ceremony takes place in a place of worship, such as a church, chapel, mosque, or temple. Depending on your beliefs, this ceremony can be held as a blessing or as a mass. During the funeral ceremony, the family will have the opportunity to speak. They will also have the opportunity to request the presence of musicians or a choir to pay their last respects to the deceased.
The civil ceremony
The civil ceremony takes place in a private ceremony room, usually owned by a funeral home. For the civil tribute, the family must invest a lot of time and effort to ensure the success of the ceremony, as it is divided into several stages between the moment of recollection and the speech.
This depends on the program previously defined by the funeral home. To help you or advise you on the course of the ceremony, you can call upon a funeral director who will accompany you throughout the funeral.
The words
Taking the floor to read a speech, a poem, or even a song to recall the deceased’s memory, history, life, and aspirations is also a good way to pay tribute to him. Everyone has something to say. Indeed, each relative wishes to share with others the intimate, unique moments spent with the deceased.
It is true that writing a speech is often not easy, but these few tips can, in a sense, help you. Writing a long speech is unnecessary; a few words can be enough. It is advisable not to improvise but to write the speech well in advance. Before the funeral, prepare to read your speech; you can even learn it by heart because it is possible that, during the reading, all your repressed emotions may come back, which will destabilize you.
If you feel you cannot do this, ask someone else to read it. The most important thing is to let your heart and your emotions speak, thinking about the ties that bound you to the deceased, and the memories of the times you spent together. In this way, you can send a good message to the audience.
Music
Music is certainly the best way to express feelings that cannot be expressed in words. Because a song is emotionally more intense and allows you to convey messages. Choosing a song allows you to reflect and pay tribute to your loved one.
Images
Pictures can be used to remember the moments and the moments lived with the deceased. This is another way to pay tribute to your loved one. It will also allow everyone to think about the deceased and to remember the strong moments shared with him/her. To do this, you can hang the photos on a wall or a panel.
Do not hesitate to ask for the services of a professional in funeral decoration to help you. But it is also possible to make a slideshow to show them on a digital screen. Designing a video can also be a good option for this. This way, you can create a memory album that will be a memorial object for the whole family.
Flowers
Giving flowers shows your appreciation and affection for the deceased. By their beauty, flowers contribute to softening and easing the funeral’s ordeal.
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